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article imageSouth Korea adoptee seeks recognition as birth father's child

By Claire LEE (AFP)     Jun 11, 2020 in World

Growing up in Michigan, Korean-born Kara Bos always knew she was adopted. But when she finally located her assumed half-sister, the woman closed the door in her face and called police.

Now a court will rule Friday in a landmark case on Bos' demand to be officially registered as her father's child.

It could set a precedent offering nearly 250,000 adoptees a chance to demand legal recognition as members of their biological families -- and uncover a host of long-hidden family secrets.

Bos, now 38, was two when she was found alone at a Goesan market, south of Seoul, and 10 months later she was adopted by an American couple.

She rarely thought about her birth family growing up, but when her daughter turned two, it hit her "deeply what it really meant to abandon a child at this age".

"I thought about the excruciating pain my mother must have gone through to have to do this, and I wondered about the circumstances she could have been in to have to choose this painful path," Bos said.

Efforts to trace her parents through adoption records proved fruitless, so she submitted a DNA sample to an online genealogy platform in 2016 and found she was related to a young Korean man studying abroad.

They established a relationship and worked out their common ancestor had to be his grandfather -- the only person who could tell her who her mother was.

But his family wanted nothing to do with her, rejecting her request to meet her father.

"It didn't matter the countless emails I sent begging and promising secrecy and never to contact them again if I could just find out my truth," she said.

"Even when I begged on my knees out of desperation in front of his oldest daughter's door for a face to face they would not allow me, and instead called the police on me," she told AFP, calling her plight "excruciatingly painful".

Kara's half sister slammed the door and called the police  her biological father waved her away
Kara's half sister slammed the door and called the police, her biological father waved her away
Jung Yeon-je, AFP

She filed a paternity suit, a move that revealed the man's address.

When she appeared at his door asking in basic Korean if he knew her face, he "looked straight at me but then waved me off".

Nonetheless a court-ordered DNA test showed there was a 99.987 percent probability he was her father.

"I just started wailing," Bos said. "The truth had just set me free."

- Landmark case -

Bos is seeking to be included in the man's family registry, an official Korean document detailing all household members.

If Friday's court rules goes in her favour her lawyer says she will be the first South Korean adoptee so recognised, giving her a legal entitlement to an inheritance. According to Seoul's justice ministry, it could create a route for those with no records of their adoptions to apply for citizenship.

Around 250,000 South Korean children have been adopted since the 1950s, according to Seoul's welfare ministry data, most of them overseas -- the country was once among the biggest sources for international adoption.

After the Korean War it was a way to remove children, born to local mothers and American GI fathers, from a country that emphasised ethnic homogeneity.

More recently, it has been unmarried pregnant women who still face stigma in a patriarchal society -- and are often forced to give up their babies.

Hosu Kim, a sociology professor at the City University of New York who researches South Korean birth mothers, around 10 percent of adoptions "point to extra-marital affairs", with the resulting children never acknowledged.

The South's existing laws prioritise birth parents' privacy over adoptees' rights, and the issue is shrouded in secrecy -- many adoption files contain falsified information, or simply none.

Bos was only able to pursue her case because of the online DNA match.

But Kim said it could serve as a "critical precedent" that opened a way for adoptees to "claim their biological connections" and force fathers -- and their existing families -- to face the truth.

Kara ralks with Kim Do-hyun  president of a rights group for Korean-born adoptees
Kara ralks with Kim Do-hyun, president of a rights group for Korean-born adoptees
Jung Yeon-je, AFP

Bos believes she is the product of an extra-marital affair, "one last attempt with someone else to have a son and as I was a daughter he abandoned me".

She hopes that once the court has issued its ruling her father will meet her and finally reveal her origins. "I just don't know," she said.

In many countries the children of sperm and egg donors have the right to know who their biological parents are, she added, but Korean-born adoptees did not.

"I think it's something that's fundamentally a part of us all, the need to know where we come from."

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