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Couples are at their best when they work together as partners. Some days, it will be the two of you versus the world. Yet, even on days when you can’t always give a hundred percent together, you’ll be better off than if you were alone.
The struggle is to get on the same page. Teamwork only wins if the team works. The chaos that can come with daily life, not to mention the occasional setback or outright disaster, can make this kind of connection feel like a distant goal.
The founders of The Cohesive Couple know how it feels to be in that situation. Based on their experiences, expertise, and the solutions they found as they grew together, Rebecca and James Lockwood, joined by collaborator Tom Bouwer, have designed an operating system to turn couples into powerful teams.
Expertise from lived experience: Becoming the power couple
The ideas behind The Cohesive Couple come from the genuine relationship that Rebecca and James built for themselves. Like many couples, they struggled to keep their goals and feelings aligned while their busy schedules got between them and filled their lives with competing priorities.
Rebecca had the idea to take the tools she used to manage her business and apply them to her personal life. “There was a light bulb moment,” she says. “I already ran my business with tools and a model, but how to apply them to my personal life had never occurred to me.”
Rebecca and James worked together to develop and implement these ideas and tools. Together, the couple developed a framework that clarified and aligned their relationship. “Defining our vision and plan,” says Rebecca, “provided us the opportunity to have conversations about our future dreams and not just tactics.”
James explains, “Our Quarterly Syncs give us the time and space to be intentional about our future together and connect more deeply. It is so easy to fall back into the traps of life; the Syncs keep us on track.”
One key feature of the system they developed helps them to think about the same goals, which allows them to think bigger. They realized that if their combined efforts were going in the same direction, they could go much further than either of them working alone. “Your relationship,” Rebecca says, will never grow beyond your level of thinking.”
The Cohesive Couple: Turning two people into one mighty force
Since implementing the system in their own lives, Rebecca and James have refined it to help others. They created The Cohesive Couple, which provides a clear framework for building stronger couples who achieve shared goals. Through the program, couples learn to align their core values, improve communication, and create a shared vision through tools like weekly check-ins and quarterly syncs.
“It’s amazing,” says James, “How 45 minutes a week gets us on the same page, keeps us on track, and helps us avoid miscommunication and arguments.”
The Lockwoods joined with Tom Bouwer to write The Cohesive Couple and founded the company. Tom’s 30-plus years of global management and coaching experience working with companies ranging from start-ups to Fortune 50 helped them detail the step-by-step approach: Escape the chaos. Connect deeply. Build a bigger future — together. The book offers readers practical tools for describing their vision, aligning goals, and building a fulfilling partnership.
Threeways to join the Cohesive Couple community
Whether reconnecting, preparing to overcome challenges, or daring to dream bigger, couples can find tools in the program to help them achieve their goals and thrive together. The program offers three levels of participation that couples can consider.
- Align: Self-guided access to all tools, software, and community resources. Perfect for couples who prefer to work independently (together).
- Connect: Quarterly sync packages with guided facilitation, group coaching, and inspiring speakers who challenge your mindset and help you grow.
- Thrive: Two annual retreats with personalized attention from the founders, offering an immersive, life-changing experience.
Your relationship can become the greatest asset of your life. You each deserve to build on one another’s power. The Cohesive Couple and accompanying book will set you on the proper path.
