Inside the condition of Infantilism Special

Posted Feb 24, 2013 by Lisa duTrieuille
Infantilism, according to licensed psychologist Dr.Dennis Sugrue, is an atypical sexual behavior that is a paraphilia in which an individual, adult female or male will find direct sexual gratification from being treated as a baby.
Image of a pacifier
Image of a pacifier
Jacqueline Godany
According to a website about Adult Babies and Diaper Lovers,"Infantilists focuses on the self-image of the adult baby. The adult baby has an alternate self-image of a toddler or infant. Infantilists engage an infantilistic alter-ego. Adult babies try to simulate infancy. This may include adult-sized diapers and baby clothing, toys, baby oils and powder. An adult baby will desire to play the role of an infant or toddler. If their partner is willing, she will play the mommy(or he will play the daddy). When role playing, the adult baby might try to achieve a baby-like mood or mindset. The adult baby and partner might have an ordinary sexual relationship, but not while engaged in infantalistic play."
A researcher and sex therapist, who declined to be named, did a study on not quite 3000 males and about 130 females, does not think that infantilism is the correct term to describe this behavior. He prefers to use the term, Adult Baby Diaper Lover(ABDL). As far as he can tell, there's some people who are into role playing whom he would call an adult baby. Then he says there's some people who are more sexually oriented and for them its very much a fetish. Those in that category he would call the Diaper Lover.
According to an article written by Tom Lee on a website," What is Infantilism?", "its important to understand that none of this has anything to do with real babies or children. A person with pedophelia has a persistent recurrent attraction to underage individuals, usually under 13 years of age." The researcher says so as an adult who has a sexual attraction to kids, with ABDL's, they don't want to have sex with kids, they want to be kids.
From the study the researcher did on ABDL's, he found that for males it was 11 years old and for females it was 12 years old, when they were first interested in ABDL. According to the researcher the age they were first practicing ABDL was 13 years old for men and 16 years old for females. He found an interesting pattern among ABDL's in regards to attachment theory, which is how we get attached to people, he found with males, who have anxious attachment suggests that the ABDL behavior is designed to cope with an anxious attachment.
On the website called "Serious Topic. Infantilism and Child Abuse,", it is not unusual for adult female babies to have a history of child sexual abuse. While the majority of male adult babies do not. The researcher found in his research of ABDL's that most ABDL interests are related to something in childhood, such as toilet training. The researcher asked the participants in his study how important is being dominated. What he found was that seemed to be key to those who enjoy being treated like a baby. The researcher asked the question of how important is it for you to be a baby. What he found was strongly correlated with people who enjoyed being treated like a baby, but it was not correlated directly at all in the question if they enjoy sexual activity as a part of ABDL behavior. The researcher asked how important the diaper is itself. And that seemed to be key to the role playing people but not a much to the sexually oriented people. He also found that role playing with baby toys were important as well as baby clothing or other baby items seemed to both important to both those who role play and are sexually oriented. He discovered that the men who enjoy role playing were more apt to engage in a variety of ABDL behaviors wheres with the women it was a little limited. The researcher also asked in practicing ABDL how often do they enjoy the following behaviors. The men who enjoyed the role playing, this was correlated with all of them- wetting, messing, using diapers and other baby items. For the male ABDL's role playing, they did not want "mommy" with sex. Whereas on the other hand others wanted "mommy" with sex. "Daddy" no sex. "Daddy" with sex. As well as role playing with baby toys.
The researcher found for women it was a different path. He found that women who enjoy the role playing, they were not into wetting, messing, using diapers but other baby items yes. And for the female adult baby, it was not so much "mommy" with sex. A little bit "mommy" no sex. And then "daddy" no sex. "Daddy" with sex. For the researcher, it seemed to be a predictor seemed to be with baby toys. The researcher found that men seemed to have a wider repetoire of ABDL behaviors.
The researcher also looked at parental relationships as well as attachment with parents. So a negative fit for the males, a negative maternal relationship was associated with a greater frequency of having "mommy" without sexual activity. The researcher says that kind of leads credence to the theory if one has a negative relationship with their mother, they would try to re-create or assimulate these. He found that if one had a good relationship with their mother they would not engage in ABDL behaviors.
Dr. Sugrue says there are particular services that cater to adult males, who were into infantilism, and they were willing to pay to spend an afternoon in a nursery for adult where they would have their diaper changed, cared for by a caregiver who will not engage in sexual behavior. Some ABDL's would might want to combine sexual activity with the caregiver.
Dr. Sugrue says," that part of the infantilism may be kind of a set up to what are some sexual issues in being sexual with the caregiver, or mother figure." Sugrue says there is a higher incidence of some type of history of sexual trauma found among ABDL's. However he says, it doesn't mean everybody who participates in infantilism had trauma. Dr. Sugrue says that what infantilism is "about is being in a position where there's vulnerability, where someone else whose sole responsibilty is to take care of you in the sense again of the trappings of a very early stage of life- has some erotic and comforting value for the individual that creates the draw." Whether its exclusively wearing diapers or whether its once a month going to an adult nursery to be powdered, diapered, breast fed, held and spanking them if they're naughty."
Dr. Sugrue says with any type of sexual behavior there's a possibility that an individual gets more and more absorbed by putting on a diaper and keeps getting to the point where they want to do this 24/7, insisting to their spouse to let them do this, wear diapers. This individual get more driven with this behavior, feeling compelled to act on the behavior. To the point it becomes increasingly consuming and devastating so it can result in the spouse giving them an ultimatum. The person is at the point where they're wearing diapers 24/7 but still holding a job but the behavior itself becomes disruptive of their time, energy and thought. That individual may be defecation in their diaper and keeps having to change themselves and as a result they are not getting work done. At this point, this individual definitely needs psychological help. According to the researcher, very little mental health clinicians know about infantilism so probably it would be better to talk with a sex therapist. But according to Dr.Sugrue, often times infantilists are not going to seek treatment for it because its a source of pleasure, comfort and as a stress reducer.
The researcher asked those ABDL's who were into role playing, if being dominated seemed critical. Being dominated he found was significant to people who seemed to enjoy sexual activity as well as the role playing. For some individuals part of the turn on was humiliation. Being treated as an infant, being humiliated after they soiled their diaper. Both the researcher and Dr.Sugrue seemed to find it very difficult to understand why people end up engaging in a behavior that is not considered to be conventional behavior.
Dr. Sugrue stated that a lot of times when people do see this atypical sexual behavior," it conflicts with what' appropriate behavior for males. He says typically infantilism is kept pretty private. ABDL's aren't going to tell their friends. The researcher says that people generally don't talk about our masturbation or sexual behavior. He says, " I do think sex, masturbation or other sexual behavior is inherently private. Its important to know that there's sexual diversity. There's a great stigma with masturbation. We've got all these hang ups about sex but the most on masturbation."