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Review: Top regrets of the dying

Posted Dec 4, 2012 by Steve Hayes
Bronnie Ware, a nurse who worked with dying patients, recorded their most common regrets. She published the top five in a blog and subsequently a book. The common theme of the top regrets are relationships and being true to oneself.
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Bronnie Ware's blog, Inspiration and Chai, offers a window onto wisdom. In her blog she records the most common regrets of patients as they come to terms with their own mortality. Over many years of providing palliative care she noticed five came up again and again. They had nothing to do with money, fame or status.
The top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware, are:
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish I had allowed myself to be happier.
Ware elaborates on each of these common regrets in her blog. She expands even further on them in her book, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.
The regrets Ware heard expressed so often are hardly surprising, and yet they are very much at odds with contemporary values, which stress material success, at any cost. Ware's inspirational blog and book invites us all to reflect on just how closely our behaviours are congruent with our genuine values.
Addicted 2 Success, which decided to conduct a similar experiment, came up with a list of ten top regrets of the dying. The list is very similar to Ware's, except the number one regret, which is:
Not pursuing dreams and aspirations.
If this were the last day of your life, what would you regret?