Muslim women denounce Obedient Wives Club 'guide to Islamic sex'

Posted Oct 14, 2011 by JohnThomas Didymus
A Muslim woman Ratna Osman, acting executive director of Sisters in Islam (SIS), has condemned the Obedient Wives Club (OWC), saying the group is indulging in "cheap stunt" to attract public attention.
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Osman's statement, according to Sydney Morning Herald , was in reaction to recent news that the Obedient Wives Club of Malaysia, has published a 115-page book titled, Seks Islam, Perangi Yahudi untuk Kembalikan Seks Islam kepada Dunia' ( "Islamic Sex, fighting Jews to return Islamic sex to the world") which it describes as "guide to Islamic sex." The Obedient Wives Club stirred controversy a few months ago, when it advised Muslim women to help control social vices, such as prostitution and gambling, by giving better sex to their husbands than prostitutes.
Osman, according to the Star Online, in her reaction to the publication of the new "sex guide" for Muslim women, said,
"Apart from talking about a woman's subjugation to her husband and how to give him the best sex, they do not have anything concrete to contribute to society when we are facing many problems...Nowhere in the Quran does it talk about marriage as just about sex and serving the husband as a master. It talks about love for one another, about kindness to each other."
Osman debunked the claim in the OWC publication that women give only 10 percent of their husbands' sexual needs. She quotes a Sisters in Islam (SIS) study which says 64.8 percent of Muslim first wives report their husbands did not inform them in advance of plans to take a second wife. Osman said this leads to feelings of betrayal in Muslim women. Osman also cites SIS statistics showing increase in domestic violence.
Other Muslim women groups have reacted to OWC's news publication. Maria Chin Abdullah, according to Star Online, described the OWC publication as,
"...slap in the face of women...Women have contributed greatly to the nation but they (OWC) have diminished us to being mere sex objects."
The group, OWC, The Guardian reports, was formed in Jordan and now has branches in Malaysia, Indonesia and Singapore. The group now claims 1,000 members worldwide and says its religious aim is to help curb male social vices by teaching Muslim wives how to "keep their husbands happy in the bedroom." A leader of the group Dr. Rohaya Mohamad, according to the Sydney Morning Herald, advised women to behave in the bedroom like "first class whores." This, according to Rohaya Mohamad, would help "curb social ills like prostitution, domestic violence, human trafficking and abandoned babies."
The Guardian quotes another co-founder of the group Darlan Zaini, saying,
"In Islam, if the husband wants sex and the wife is not in the mood, she has to give in to him...If not, the angels will curse her. This is not good for the family."
Datuk Seri Shahrizat Abdul Jalil, Malaysia's Minister for Women, Family and Community Development, according to the Sydney Morning Herald, has asked the government to watch the group's activities, but she does not support calls to muzzle the group because, "we are...a democratic country."
The Star Online, however, quotes the minister saying,
“Should this publication be in contravention of the law whether civil or shariah, then the law here will take its course."
Malaysian press reports say Obedient Wives Club has links to the Global Ikhwan Sdn Bhd, an organization founded by members of a group called Al-Arqam the Malaysian government had banned 20 years ago.