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article imageWoman finds love after seeking out anonymous sperm donor father

By Kev Hedges     Nov 4, 2014 in Lifestyle
In 2011, Aminah Hart was in her forties and single and had already lost two young boys to a rare genetic disorder that she later learned could be passed on via the defective gene she carried.
But thanks to some new legislation in her state, Aminah, from Victoria State in Australia, accessed an IVF program for single women. The program would give Aminah one last chance to become a mother to a healthy baby.
She had always said that being single would not be a "picture postcard" sort of life, but says she was raised by a single mother who taught her how to be strong in life without a partner. When she arrived at the IVF clinic she was handed three pieces of paper: on each one were the details of three anonymous donors. The only clues to who the donor fathers were came in the form of vital statistics, physical qualities, medical history and hobbies.
From these details alone she had to choose which man would be the father donor of her child. She decided on one and was given the first name only of the donor and some basic details of the sperm donor. Apparently he was called Scott and worked as a cattle breeder and coached a team playing Australian Rules football. He was also a father of four and described himself as "happy and healthy."
Ms Hart had lost two sons — both to different fathers — in 2005 and 2008. The toddlers both died in infancy from X-linked myotubular myopathy which is passed on to half of any boys born to a mother who is a carrier, but it is not found in girls.
Where there is a high-risk of gender-related genetic issues then a mother can choose her child's gender. Her daughter Leila was born in 2012 and she cried with tears of joy when her baby girl was born. However, her baby being blonde was a bit of surprise as Ms Hart is black. She was born in the late sixties to a West Indian father and an Australian mother.
Ms Hart then contacted the Victorian Assisted Reproductive Treatment Authority (VARTA) and asked for details on the sperm donor father. Fortunately Scott had ticked the box which would allow the son or daughter to contact him prior to the child turning 18.
He agreed to meet Ms Hart when Leila was just 12 months old and she said, "I was nervous and tentative but the rapport was really easy," Ms Hart said. "The first thing for me was 'phew, he's a nice guy'."
The relationship developed and Scott began to see Aminah and Leila on a regular basis. But Scott was already in a relationship with another woman. In time, the other woman took umbrage to this developing relationship and split with Scott. Shortly afterwards Scott Anderson and Aminah Hart began a loving relationship. The couple have been together 12 months now and even share the parental duties to Leila. They are not living with each other just yet but for Aminah it has become the story of an improbable modern family — a back-to-front romance where a woman finds and falls in love with the donor father of her own baby girl.
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