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article imageTerminally ill cancer patient married girlfriend in hospital room

By Natty Walker     Dec 22, 2013 in Health
Kent - It's a bittersweet moment when a 22-year-old girlfriend marries her 23-year-old boyfriend, while he is laying on his hospital bed after being diagnosed with terminal cancer.
Felix Glenny married his wife, Cola Glenny, at Medway Maritime Hospital in the UK. He was admitted to the hospital in November, and was soon diagnosed with incurable bowel cancer. He has been bedridden ever since, with his girlfriend Cola by his side. Their children, a two-year-old son and an infant daughter, were also present for the marriage ceremony.
Felix had been suffering for several weeks from what he thought were stomach cramps. After being admitted to the Medway Maritime Hospital in Kent, doctors found a tumor. Surgeons were able to remove the large tumor in his bowels. Unfortunately, the surgery was too little too late. Further tests showed the cancer had already spread, and Felix would only have weeks left to live.
After discovering that the cancer would be terminal, Felix and Cola decided to marry as soon as possible. They invited their closest friends and family to the ceremony, which was officiated by a chaplain in Felix's hospital room.
In an interview with MailOnline, Cola said, "After a second operation last Friday they discovered that the cancer had spread everywhere. That's it now, there's no stopping it." She continued, "After it all settled down and we got our heads around it as much as we could, Felix just said he wanted to get married as soon as we could."
Cola described the ceremony in her interview with MailOnline, "It was a lovely day(...) It was perfect and it couldn't have gone any better." She added, "It was crazy because we were really happy, but it was so emotional."
According to Cola, the wedding wasn't an out of the blue decision. She explained, "We had talked about getting married even before he was ill, and when we found out the cancer was terminal we wanted to do it straight away."
The newlyweds met through mutual friends in August 2010. They quickly fell in love, and within a year of being a couple decided to move in together. Soon, Cola became pregnant with their first child, their son, Ralph. Cola is a hairdresser, and Felix works for a water supply company. They happily lived together for two years. Four months ago, their first daughter, Pearl, was born.
Only weeks after Pearl was born, Felix started suffering brutal stomach pains. He was in a lot of pain and unable to go to work, but when the couple contacted doctors they were repeatedly told that Felix was not seriously ill. Doctors ignored their concerns, even though Felix had three family members that recently died of bowel cancer. His aunt died of the disease in 2007; his mother and grandfather died in 2012.
Describing the ordeal to MailOnline, Cola said, "He was ill two weeks prior to being taken in to hospital, we kept going up there and they kept turning us away, saying it was a bug." She continued, "We had three ambulances out(...) Twice they took us to hospital. Once they said it was a kidney infection, another time they said it was irritable bowels and one of the other times they didn't even take us to the hospital because they said there was nothing wrong with him."
In the interview with MailOnline, Cola stated, "Then a surgeon had a feel of his tummy and could feel something in his bowels, and that's when they did the CT scan and found it was cancer. She describes how she felt after hearing the diagnosis as, "It was awful finding out, we've got two small children. He's been in hospital since. In the four weeks since he had his tumor removed the cancer spread quite far."
Although he was diagnosed with a terminal illness and likely on his deathbed, Felix's thoughts continued to focus on his family. Cola described Felix to MailOnline as, "He's quite a family man, he insists he brings the money in. So he went to work two or three times while he was ill, but couldn't really do much, because he had major stomach cramps which would go and come back."
A family friend set up a GoFundMe page for the couple. The friend, Ashley, mainly wanted to help Felix feel more at peace about his wife and kids having enough money while he's sick, and afterwards.
Cola shared in the interview with MailOnline that she and the kids will spend Christmas Day with Felix at the hospital. She said, "It will be his last Christmas with them, so we want to make it as special as possible."
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