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article imageDealing with infertility Special

By Tim Sandle     Nov 21, 2014 in Health
Chicago - The holiday period can awkward for couples attempting to overcome infertility. To help families over this period, top specialist Dr. Marie Davidson, who is a fertility counselor, provides Digital Journal readers with some advice.
Dr. Davidson begins with a question: “Is it possible to find thankfulness in the midst of an infertility journey?” She proceeds to answer this important question with the answer: “yes”.
Infertility is defined as the inability to conceive after one year of engaging in sexual intercourse without contraception. There are many theories as to why some women find it hard to conceive. Feeling relaxed is often seen as a key part of the process.
Dr. Davidson outlines why feeling good and relaxed is so important: “To arrive at your own place of gratitude, try to look with open-minded kindness at the life you have right now." Being content is a key point.
While stress does not cause infertility, infertility most definitely causes stress. Infertile women report higher levels of stress and anxiety than fertile women. Her the doctor adds: "The good things may include people that you treasure, activities you enjoy and all that is comforting and fulfilling. For everyone it will be different things.”
To help Digital Journal readers in a similar situation, Dr. Davidson, who is a fertility counsellor, makes some suggestions across the holiday season (advice which extends worldwide). Infertility counselling offers patients an opportunity to explore their thoughts, feelings, beliefs and their relationships in order to reach a better understanding of the meaning and implications of any choice of action they may make. With this process, counselling can be described as the process used to give couples and individuals an opportunity to explore their feelings, beliefs and thoughts in order for them to have a better understanding of their present situation.
The doctor's suggestions are expressed as six main issues:
First: "Find a clear perspective on what really matters. After a winding path to parenthood with many twists and turns, some of the “big” stuff seems much smaller." Complex and often painful emotions are common for people with fertility problems, those who can't have children and those having fertility treatment.
Second: "Try to make the most of every moment. Living through tough diagnoses and treatments can help you bring about positive change in your life in the form of a new mindset, new habits, new goals, and a new outlook." Here a supportive partner is important.
Third: "Savor each day. Living in the moment may feel like second nature after waiting so long for your little loved one, but each day is precious." Again, having a relaxed mind helps.
Fourth: "Recognize your own strength and resilience. You have probably never been stronger and more resilient than you are right now."
Fifth: "Draw strength from your support team. Anyone going through infertility knows that it is impossible to endure alone. Family and friends play a critical role in keeping your chin up. When your long-awaited child arrives, you have an excited and enthusiastic team behind you that is eager to celebrate." Here, support counselling provides an opportunity for couples to explore their feelings, coping strategies and relationship issues.
Sixth: "Know that you have a unique story of how your beloved child came to be. You know exactly when he or she was conceived, and became a biological part of you. Not many can say that they’ve seen their little one before he or she grew inside a belly or joined the family. If a child comes to you through adoption, you also have a unique and moving narrative to tell."
To this advice, other studies have found that for some women, massage may hold another key to reducing infertility stress. In a study published in the International Journal of Neuroscience medics discovered that massage therapy worked to decrease the body's physical signals of stress, and this could help women to conceive.
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