I have a problem with the law of attraction.
As I a sure everyone knows by now the law of attraction states that what you focus on you attract. This concept has been around forever and is a part of every major religion. Its not the idea that I have an issue with, but the word law.
The way the law of attraction has been put before the public is that it is an aspect of quantum physics and therefore a scientific fact. The problem is that the very idea of a law in quantum world is contradictory. The scientists on the cutting edge of quantum physics will admit that everything they are hoping to prove could be incredibly wrong. In order for something to be called a law of the universe (such as the laws of thermodynamics and the laws of motion) you have to be able to replicate it and that, once again, flies in the face of the quantum world.
However, with that said I do believe that what you focus on you attract because that is how your brain works. It is not something that is ultra spiritual and it is not something that exists only in the world of quantum mathematics. This is real, you can replicate it, and it is the same for each and every one of us. Let me explain.
Your brain, for lack of a better term, is a giant filter. As you are sitting there reading this if your brain did not filter out what was not needed then you would be distracted everything that is going on in the room. Your brain filters out what you do not need to process so that you can achieve the task at hand. However this filtering process is something that you are in complete control of and this is where the attraction part happens. When you tell your brain that you want to achieve something then that creates a filter in your mind to alert you when you something related is present. This is the same basic function that is happening when you buy a new car and suddenly you see that car all over town when before you did not see any.
So what does this have to do with saving a relationship that is drifting apart. One of the biggest issues you have when you begin drifting apart is that you begin to filter out the positive so that you can see the negative. Suddenly he is leaving dirty underwear everywhere when before it did not bother you. Suddenly her perfume smells like she just gave a sponge bath to a diseased horse when before the scent intoxicated you. It is this filtering process that can turn your partner from saint into a demon.
What you need to first realize is that the problem may in fact be you. Your partner may be the one who is trying to hold things together and it is you who is beginning to set a new course away from them.
If you are beginning to feel that you are becoming distant before you blame your partner, take a look at your brains filtering process and what you have told it to look out for. Are you focused on the problems so that you can justify your pulling away from them? If so make a real effort for the next 30 days to see everything good about your partner (and this is where it gets hard) then go and tell your partner about all of these wonderful traits. Keep doing this each and every day and you will see a dramatic change in the way you think about them.
But what should you do if they are the ones pulling away? We will get into that next time.
Seek Joy
- Erin
www.energyofromance.com
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