Here is the question that was put to me today.
“Why do women feel they have to go out of their way to impress men, when men don’t really care?”
In other words why does a perfectly sane woman on her day off go get various parts of her body plucked, pulled, waxed, and painted only to have her boyfriend or spouse show up and notice nothing. Forget the time and pain involved, the money spent on all of this alone warrants a “Hey! You look like you plucked something?” before he sits down and fondles the X-Box all night.
When I was asked this question I immediately thought of an episode of Grey’s Anatomy. Izzie (yes I know their names) was planning a big night with George and stated that in order to have a perfect night she MUST shave her legs. At the end of the show when the day proved too exhausting for her and they were laying down going to sleep, George asked her if she only shaved one leg. Izzie, of course, burst into tears.
Before we continue I need you ladies to admit to one thing. When you go through the plucking and painting of your various body parts you are not doing it entirely for a guy. I love my girlfriend, but no one is going to be drizzling hot wax near my schmengus anytime soon. Women go through these kind of ordeals so that they can feel more feminine, and I personally believe that is reason enough.
Femininity is a strange and wonderful energy, and there are a few traits you have to understand about femininity before we can move on.
First let’s talk about the tactile response thing. As they shop women sub-consciously reach out and touch everything they are interested in. Think about this. Even as women shop for make-up in the cardboard displays they reach out and touch the cardboard even though it feels exactly the same as the last one. Many times women do the things they do for no other reasons then it just simply “feels” better. How many of you own a silk blouse? Not really practical, and pain to clean, but it is worth it because it feels so good on your skin. It makes you feel feminine. Once again, a very good thing.
Second, femininity loves a blank canvass. Put a woman in a stark white room with no furniture and she will give you a dozen ideas of “what could be done”. This is a very important concept with femininity as it ties into the core creative instincts of femininity. Many times women go get their hair did for no other reason then to be creative. Throw in painting toes, fingers, cheeks, eyes, lips and you start to get the idea.
The only problem is that our society is trying to tell women to stop being feminine. There is a whole groups of people out there who believe that the only way for the sexes to be equal is for the sexes to be gender neutral. This is, of course, stupid. My advice is for all the women reading this is to dive into your femininity. Don’t just put your toe in, dive head first into the deep end. You will notice two immediate results:
One, you will feel more powerful and you will radiate that energy. Go get plucked, painted and tweezed; but do it for yourself. I promise you that you will feel better about yourself and the world around you.
Second, the men in your life will begin to notice you. Why? Your femininity has a direct connection to our masculinity and we literally crave your femininity. When you turn it on it will pull us closer almost every time.
There is one exception and this may be the reason why so many women do not feel the man in their life cares, but I will have to go into that next time.
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