The million dollar question is once you’re with a quality guy how do you keep him.
One word: Magnets.
Seriously, this is deep stuff. All magnets have two parts to them, positive and negative. Two magnets of the same polarity will repel, and magnets of the opposite polarity will attract. In a relationship these polarities are called masculine and feminine energy. We all have traits of both and the key is being able to see where your partner is and to react accordingly.
On a very high level let’s define what I mean when I say masculine and feminine energy. Masculine is driven by purpose. Feminine is driven by love.
To be blunt, the way the masculine receives energy is by getting turned on. Yep, we are interested in being turned on, the more the better. Big surprise. Maybe not, but watch as men freak out over what’s coming next:
When I guy gets sprung over a girl we feel a bolt of energy shoot through us, and this is not limited to just the woman we may be dating. We can see an amazingly hot woman on the street and….yep there it is, that feminine energy we crave. The problem with men today is that they think they need to have a release. (You know what I’m talking about, if not listen to Barry White and you’ll figure it out). What they don’t understand is that, at times, it is better NOT to release.
I’ll let that sink in for moment.
So ladies no matter how many times you have been told the opposite don't buy into it. Guys do not NEED sex. In fact it’s better if they go without it sometimes, especially if they are struggling with finding a goal in life. Trainers tell athletes to stay away from women before a big game all the time. Why? The release drains the energy needed to stand toe to toe with an opponent. Feminine energy is powerful, and when channeled properly it will help you do everything else better (As I am sitting in the coffee house writing this, a beautiful woman just walked by me. I can smell her perfume and suddenly I am typing quicker.) Learn to keep the energy and direct it towards your purpose and you will be amazed that the longer you go without, the more focused you become. Make a choice men: Porn or Purpose.
So if the feminine is supposed to keep the masculine turned on, what is the job of the masculine? The job of the masculine is to make the feminine feel as much love as humanly possible. Feminine energy craves knowing that all day long she is needed, she is desired, and that she is loved. The feminine craves love as much as masculine craves being turned on. Feminine energy craves it so much she will test the man she is with in regards to his love for her subconsciously so that she can feel the depth of his love for her. Men get frustrated by this because they don’t understand that she is doing.
Imagine this: Your on a date you tell your girlfriend about how you just received a huge bonus check. She responds by asking you if you remembered to wash her car, or some other mundane task that we both know you forgot to do. Confused as to why she is not excited for you, the date becomes tense.
She is happy for you actually, so happy that she wants a piece of it. She subconsciously asked you a question so you can show her how much you love her and thereby feel the same thrill as you are feeling (Sounds like sex doesn’t it? To her it is in a way). So how do you handle this? If you did the chore, then score! If you didn’t let her know you were not able to but that specifically because she means so much to you (and she does right?) you will do it as soon as you are able. When she senses your sincerity her body language will change and she will turn on her feminine charm because she knows that even in your success you still love and need her.
You see it’s magnetism that keeps a relationship hot. When she feels loved, she gives you more of her energy to help you accomplish your goals, which in turn, gives you more energy to tell her how much you love her. This magnetism, this attraction, this energy when paid attention to just keeps getting more powerful as the years go by.
That’s the good news. The bad news is that if you are not BOTH paying attention to this energy the relationship will quickly become one sided and drain the life right out of you.
In other words, you will repel each other.
Seek joy everyone!
- Erin
www.energyofromance.com
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