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Divorce Rate is Too High

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By Casey Holley
Posted Mar 31, 2013 in
Divorce is a huge problem in the United States. It seems like people aren't getting married for the long haul anymore. It seems like they are trying to hurry up and get married without thinking things through. Marriage should be a lifelong commitment, not just a temporary solution for someone needing a cuddle buddy.
According to Divorce Statistics, the divorce rate increases with subsequent marriages. While the divorce rate for first marriages is 41 to 50 percent, it is 73 to 74 percent in third marriages. Those numbers are just sickening. They make sense when you consider that with each subsequent marriage, people are less likely to think about marriage as a commitment.
That isn't to say that there isn't ever a case for divorce. A divorce may be in order if a spouse is abusive or is participating in illegal activities. Those are divorces that should be allowed to go through. The problem lies with divorces that are over 'irreconcilable differences' or other similar excuses. There are several keys to succeeding in marriage and avoiding divorce.
Compromise
Compromise is one of the biggest keys to a successful marriage. You have to be willing to meet in the middle. If you are holding fast on one end of an argument and your spouse is holding firm at the other end, there is no way that the two of you are functioning as one married unit. That is the thing. You and your spouse became one person when you got married. You may go through the day as two separate people, but you still have to come together as one unit at the end of the day.
Apologize
There has never been a person under the sun who has always been right. You can't be afraid to say you are sorry. Even if you are only a little bit wrong, saying you are sorry to your spouse can help to get things going in the right direction again. There comes a point in your marriage when you have to think about your marriage instead of thinking of yourself.
Solitude
You probably got married to your spouse because you don't want to imagine life without him or her. While that is good and all, you still need some time to yourself. It doesn't have to be a lot of time. You and your spouse can spend a few hours a week doing something relaxing. If you like to fish, go fishing. If you like getting your nails done, go have a manicure. Going to work doesn't count as solitary time, so don't fall into thinking that.
These suggestions won't mend every marriage, but at least you can rest assured that you tried if you do end up in divorce court.

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