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No Sex Please, We're Happy! Two U.K. couples no longer have sex

By Marcus Hondro     May 29, 2013 in Lifestyle
We often hear of couples, once kids come along in particular, who don't have time for the sex life they once enjoyed. Couples who find it hard to do it 3 times a week amidst parenting and work and household duties. But zero times per week?
The Daily Mail in the U.K. found two couples who don't have sex at all - and claim they are quite happy. Each couple claims they are very much in love with one another but very busy and that but sex no longer holds the lure it once did.
No Sex Please, We're Happy Without
Chris and Charlotte Everiss, he's 40 and she's 34, say they're too busy for sex and while they enjoy cuddles and kisses, they aren't currently considering beginning a sex life over again. They have a 4-year-old son and report having had a strong and enjoyable sex life when younger. But now they've cut it out entirely and have not had intercourse in over two years.
‘We still turn each other on but we don’t want to take it any further. We don’t have the time or the energy," Charlotte told the Daily Mail. "I find it hard switching off knowing that our four-year-old, Addison, is in the next bedroom. I think if Chris really missed sex he would tell me, or I’d catch him watching porn on the internet as a substitute."
Certainly a complication for them is Charlotte's ectopic pregnancy 3 years ago, which lead her to have a partial hysterectomy. It was a six-hour operation she almost didn't make it out of and whether or not that lingers and put questions of sex aside they haven't said in so many words, though for Chris it is something he thinks about.
"‘It can be hard knowing that our cuddles will never lead to anything more intimate,’ he says. ‘Charlotte is a gorgeous woman and I’m still very attracted to her, but she nearly died and I count my blessings every day that she’s even still here."
He then turned to the excuse of work, one they both use, if, that is, it is an excuse. "I have an hour-long commute at either end of my working day so, to be honest, most of the time I’m too tired for sex anyway."
Cuddle and kiss - then goodnight
The paper also spoke with Julian and Tracey Dowler, who say the reason they haven't had sex in over a year is largely because Julian runs a business with 40 employees and is up each morning at 4 for his commute and works 12 hours a day thereafter. Like Chris and Charlotte, the two say they cuddle in kiss, on the couch, in bed before sleep, but they chose not to take it farther.
They have no children but want a family, despite Julian being 55, but they don't seem to be moving toward it. "We talk about rekindling our love life but never seem to get around to it,’ Julian said. "We had a weekend away at a country hotel a couple of weeks ago and I was so exhausted I spent most of the time asleep."
Therapists are finding more couples going without sex and whether these couples are doing so because they're truly too busy for it, or whether something underlying is going on, is something everyone will have an opinion on. Suffice to say that simply saying they are happy with cuddling and kissing may not mean that it is so.
"I am hopeful that in the future, when Charlotte and I both feel better in ourselves," Chris said. "Our sex life will resume."
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