After being a couple for nearly ten years, Chadil Deffy, AKA Deff Yingyuen, chose to marry his now deceased girlfriend. The objective of the marriage was to honor the request of Sarinya "Anne" Kamsook to be married, which she voiced prior to her demise from accidental causes.
The celebration of the marriage was somewhat subdued by the deceased status of the bride, but was intended as a poignant reminder of the depth of the love Chadil held for his girlfriend. Photos and footage have been placed on both Chadil's Facebook
page and on YouTube
of the ceremonies.
The story of this unusual pair of ceremonies has been well covered in Asia, and abroad with reports at Thai-ASEAN
, plus an Op-Ed piece by a friend of Chadil, Onsiri Pravattiyagul, in the Bangkok Post
Chadil made the choice to conduct the marriage concurrently with the funeral, despite the death of his girlfriend, as a method of "righting a wrong". The wedding plans of the couple had reportedly been postponed by Chandil so as to allow him to finish his education.
The wedding and funeral were held in North Eastern Thailand in Surin province as noted a PDN
. The photos and YouTube video have been the focus of a great deal of sharing among those in Thailand and elsewhere.
Needless to say, the range of responses to the dual ceremonies has been extremely varied both in fervor and in outlook. Pravattiyagul, the Op-Ed author mentioned that some have called the entire process nothing but a publicity stunt and others have expressed a far gentler possible motivation. Those without a close and personal knowledge of the groom, might be well served by allowing the groom's friends to make those judgements, as for Pravattiyagul, he has chosen to accept the nobler sentiment of both guilt and grief by Chadil as the reason for the twin ceremonies.
The wedding may have come too late for Sarinya to have felt the joy of the day, but the ceremony may serve a purpose nearly as beneficial, by allowing Chadil to find closure in the process.