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article imageStudy: Two-thirds of married women opt for anything but sex Special

By Kim I. Hartman     May 21, 2010 in Lifestyle
Sex is not a priority when it comes to personal time, a new study shows. Married women say their sex life is not only predictable but they would prefer to read a book, watch TV or catch up on much needed sleep instead of having sex with their partner.
"Not tonight honey, I have a headache" has a whole new meaning, according to a new sex study from iVillage. The study, which coincides with the launch of iVillage's Pregnancy and Parenting site, reveals that two-thirds of married women admit they would rather be doing something else rather than having sex with their spouses.
Sixty-three percent of married women said they would prefer to catch up on an extra hour of sleep, watch a movie or read a book among other activities than have sex with their spouse. However the study also found that 32% are extremely or very happy with their sex life and about half (45%) responded they were happy or somewhat happy. A mere 16% found that they were not at all happy with their sex lives.
The satisfaction most women feel about their sex lives may be rooted in familiarity. More than eight in ten (81%) women describe their sex life as predictable, based on location (70%), position (67%), time of day (56%), duration (52%) and foreplay (46%), while one in four said they did not.
"The iVillage study shows that not all housewives are desperate - surprisingly they are quite content and fulfilled with their predictable sex lives," said Liz Zack, Editor, iVillage Pregnancy & Parenting. "Perhaps that's because sex is not a priority when it comes to personal time. Today's married women lead such busy lives that they consider rest and relaxation a better self indulgence."
In humans, sex has been claimed to produce health benefits as varied as improved sense of smell, stress and blood pressure reduction, increased immunity, and decreased risk of prostate cancer, however there is insufficient research to support these claims. Sexual intimacy, as well as orgasms, increases levels of the hormone oxytocin, also known as "the love hormone" which helps people bond and build trust.
Disability-related pain and mobility impairment can also hamper intercourse, in many cases the most significant impediments to intercourse for individuals with a disability are psychological. In particular, people who have a disability can find intercourse daunting due to issues involving their self-concept as a sexual being, or partner's discomfort or perceived discomfort.
Temporary difficulties can arise with alcohol and sex as alcohol initially increases interest (through dis-inhibition) but decreases capacity with greater intake and in turn fuels the pressure felt within a marriage or any relationship involving intimate relations.
Ellen Allen, YMCA Director of Resolve in Charleston, West Virginia said, "Economic stressors also add to the issue of frequency of sexual relations in a marriage. This is not limited to people of lower level incomes, the economy exasperates stress for everyone regardless of financial position in society".
When a woman says, "Not tonight Honey, I have a headache", this can lead domestic violence situations." "Control is the issue" Allen said. "A person's need to not only isolate their partner from other people and activities along with the need for control even in sexual situations and being denied can escalate and lead to coercion, rape and physical force."
This add's to the steadily increasing instances of spousal abuse and and domestic violence statistics which are rising as the economy declines and women attempt to have more say over their own body."
Children had an impact on how women felt about their spouses; women who had children were significantly more likely to try something new in bed with their spouse, say they married the best sex of their lives, and claim they had better sex after marriage than those who did not have children.
Marsha A. Dadisman, Director of Communications of Office of the Secretary of the West Virginia Department of Health and Human Resources shared statistics showing the decline in birth rate by just over a percent as more women say not tonight, honey. She said, This decline could also be affected by the economic down-turn the country is experiencing as well.
Husbands don't fret! You won't be confined to your side of the bed every night! The study also provides good news with half of women (48%) saying that they indeed married the best sex of their life. However, 62% of women admit they have fantasized about having sex with someone other than their spouse, and one in ten has done so.
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