Bedroom talk: When sweet nothings turn to terms of parenting

Bedroom behaviour is as personal as the individual personalities themselves. Bedroom talk is often used to enhance the sexual experience. But what happens when terms meant for kids are used during a steamy session?

Parents know all too well how different everyday communication can be when there are children around. A knee scrape becomes a "booboo" or "owie," bathroom habits take on cartoonish names like "boomboom" and even everyday items such as a bottle or a nap become something that sounds like babble to the un-parenting ear. For many parents, the terms of endearment between adults also change, going from "hon" or "babe" to using words like "mommy" and "daddy" to address one another. This alteration is part of the everyday process to encourage parenting terms in their children instead of first names. However, some of these parents find this terminology bedroom appropriate, adding it to an already stimulating vocab that, well, gets the juices flowing. But the question remains, is it considered sexy to call your wife "mommy" while wearing fuzzy purple handcuffs and slathered in edible chocolate spread? Apparently so. For years, the terms have been used in public and private by famous pairs such as the Reagans, where the former president called Nancy "Mommy." And common couples are no different, using it in the boudoir to playfully refer to the, well, "Big Daddy." It seems to be a turn on, according to a news report column:

Marie Melsheimer of Bend, Ore.: I find it rather endearing” she said. “In the bedroom “it does come up sometimes, as in, ‘Aren’t you going to take care of The Daddy?’ ”

Andrea Frayser from Smithburg, Md.: {We} routinely call each other “Mommy” and “Daddy.” It started after their children were born, but now they’ve embraced the sexiness, too. “In intimate situations, it becomes ‘Big Daddy’ and ‘Little Momma,’

Jenna McCarthy from Santa Barbara, Calif.: “mortified” to admit that she and her husband started calling each other “Mommy” and “Daddy” after having children. “Sadly, my husband and I now find ourselves using these nicknames even when the kids aren’t around,”

However, not all individuals find it sexually stimulating or even appropriate as a woman in Canada told how one of her friends expressed disgust over the bedroom exchange of parental names, calling it "incestuous." Others feel it would ruin the intimate moment. And still others don't know how to react and get a little "freaked out" when it is used. One married man simply finds it "silly" and would prefer his name be used during vocal sexual exchange because, as he stated: "It tells me my lover knows who I am." From a psychological standpoint, the negative responses may be just an association with unhealthy feelings or images of inappropriate situations. It even prevents couples from admitting they use the parenting moniker during sexual play. For example, an individual who was raped by a step-parent may not find the term "daddy" very stimulating and may even create judgment in those who do. Or, maybe they know the story of Edward West Browning aka "Peaches and Daddy," where the fifty something-year-old wealthy New Yorker advertised for a daughter and then married a 15-year-old respondent who called him "Daddy." Despite a greater than equal response to finding the terminology not bedroom worthy, the reality is that sex talk is different for everyone and that one phrase may not give rise to the same responses as another. However, a bit on AskMen revealed that following some basic rules of engagement, the experience can become as exciting as a personalized porn flick. However, It also explained that sometimes, silence is golden. So.....Who's your Momma?