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article imageOp-Ed: Are We Too Nice For Our Kids Own Good?

By KJ Mullins     Jun 3, 2009 in Lifestyle
Have we become to nice to our kids? Is the public now intolerant of those children who say it like it is? Do we soften the blow today so much that decent behave is no longer acceptable?
In days gone by bad behaviour was not tolerated. If a child acted up he was considered a brat. His behaviour was judged on the merit that it was unacceptable. There were few excuses allowed, a brat is a brat regardless was the norm in thinking. On rare occasions people excused certain behaviours when it was obvious that the child had 'issues' but that was a rare case. We've changed.
Today children who act up can fall back on many reasons for their behavior from attention deficit to any number of disabilities. Granted there are children that have chemical imbalances that cause them to act out but is that the excuse for all of the kids? Are we excusing our children into an antisocial future society?
Everyone has a side to them that is self-centered. The difference between 'brats' and the rest of the world is those impulsive forces are channeled into decent behaviour.
Is it wrong to teach our children that they can't act how they want at all times? When did kids get the power to be screaming little fascists? At what point did parents hand over the rule books and let the kids run the show?
The modern move to 'empower' the kids has changed the way society runs. We have treated our children as equals. Are they? Maybe I am in the minority but I don't think my children are my equal, not yet. They are not my friends either. They don't have the life experience behind them for us to be honest peers. They are my children and as such they need guidance to become become decent adults.
All over the Internet there are pages written on how parents can tame bad behaviour. There are even sites that say temper tantrums are good for kids. Have we stopped trusting our own family values so much that we need so much guidance?
Perhaps I am wrong. Perhaps are ancestors were all goofs who had no clue on raising large broods. Perhaps expecting your children to be kind and courteous is just out-dated.
I hope I am not wrong.
If I am, I may just have turned into my great-grandmother.
This opinion article was written by an independent writer. The opinions and views expressed herein are those of the author and are not necessarily intended to reflect those of
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