Rapes More Likely In Two NY Counties

Good tips to follow.
Those that do rape need to be reported even if a person had thought of them as a friend.

@ Cynthia T. [Picasso]
Good tips to follow.
Those that do rape need to be reported even if a person had thought of them as a friend.

When I was raped, it was by a so-called friend. I had previously been able to ward off his advances, but he unfortunately cornered me in an isolated place and I was then some 7 months pregnant for my oldest. All I could think of was pretecting my baby, you know?

@ Debra Myers (skyangel)
When I was raped, it was by a so-called friend. I had previously been able to ward off his advances, but he unfortunately cornered me in an isolated place and I was then some 7 months pregnant for my oldest. All I could think of was pretecting my baby, you know?

What a worthless creep!!
I hope that you reported him.

@ Cynthia T. [Picasso]
What a worthless creep!!
I hope that you reported him.

Actually, I didn't. I told my boyfriend (who later became my first hubby) and he just laughed...so I figured that the police wouldn't believe me either. That's how young and naive I was. I was later vindicated, because of an article that someone did on here last year about the national sex offender's registry...and low and behold, I learned I wasn't the only one he harmed this way! He is now considered a pedophile!!!

@ Debra Myers (skyangel)
Actually, I didn't. I told my boyfriend (who later became my first hubby) and he just laughed...so I figured that the police wouldn't believe me either. That's how young and naive I was. I was later vindicated, because of an article that someone did on here last year about the national sex offender's registry...and low and behold, I learned I wasn't the only one he harmed this way! He is now considered a pedophile!!!

I guess that is one of the problems with these creeps if they are a "friend" they are excused and not reported. Sounds like he should be locked up.

Do you know yet when the big move will start? I sent you two emails yesterday hope that you received them.

Yes, I did receive them...but I had to go look! LOL!

Well, the son-in-law said he wanted to be out of hre today, but since everyone's tapped-out money-wise until payday tomorrow, I may have a 1-2 day repreive. He did take two loads out of here yesterday, and I know that his next day off isn't until Friday...so I've got my fingers crossed that I'll be here until Friday. (Here = internet & DJ! LOLOL!)

@ Debra Myers (skyangel)
Yes, I did receive them...but I had to go look! LOL!

Well, the son-in-law said he wanted to be out of hre today, but since everyone's tapped-out money-wise until payday tomorrow, I may have a 1-2 day repreive. He did take two loads out of here yesterday, and I know that his next day off isn't until Friday...so I've got my fingers crossed that I'll be here until Friday. (Here = internet & DJ! LOLOL!)

Well hopefully it won't be until Friday.
Every additional day that you can be here, DJ, is good and also it will make it fewer days until you can be back here. :-)

@ Cynthia T. [Picasso]
Well hopefully it won't be until Friday.
Every additional day that you can be here, DJ, is good and also it will make it fewer days until you can be back here. :-)

Exactly! LOL!

The police in the two counties should be ashamed about this statistics and try to have more active patrol.

@ Chris V. (cgull)
The police in the two counties should be ashamed about this statistics and try to have more active patrol.

You would think! Steuben county is one of the largest counties in NY...which might be one of the problems.

@ Debra Myers (skyangel)
You would think! Steuben county is one of the largest counties in NY...which might be one of the problems.

Indeed. Whether we like it or not, there are things we cannot prevent.

deb, always good to report the higher stat areas.

For those who don't know, rape isn't always violent and rarely involves use of weapon...coercion and pressure to engage in unwanted sexual activity is still sexual assault/rape.

The tips are awesome and yes, rape is usually someone introduced to or known in some way by victim (not saying best buds).

I have a niece who was drug raped at a club 10 years ago. one of the guys in her group of friends slipped a drug into her drink and then offered to take her home when she became ill.

9 months later she gave birth to a very hispanic child and she is as whit skin red headed as they come. she was also a virgin.

The guy was a friend of a friend of a friend....but trusted. no one knew him really and couldn't find him. my niece didn't know she was raped or pregnant for 5 months!

Her child? She kept and he has all kinds of health problems and behavior problems.

Great report.

I was date raped too - back in my early 20's. I went on a date with a man that was going to hire me to work for his company. We had a couple drinks and after the 3rd I started feeling sick and asked him to take me home. I was literally throwing up by the time we got to my apt. He offered to take me upstairs and I felt so sick and woozy I agreed - he then followed me into my place, and I vaguely remember him taking my clothes off - I was still retching and the bastard forced himself on me. I was too sick to struggle and I don't remember him leaving. Needless to say I never took the job, and back in those days date rape and being drugged weren't as talked about then. I never told anyone because I thought they would think I just drank too much - but I am 100% positive I was drugged. I still think of that jerk to this day, over 30 years later.

@ Bart B. Van Bockstaele
Indeed. Whether we like it or not, there are things we cannot prevent.

And this is just one of many. No one knows who might be raped, or a child molested, but we can be aware of dangers or the probabilities and adjust our behaviors according.

@ Nikki W (karateblossom)
deb, always good to report the higher stat areas.

For those who don't know, rape isn't always violent and rarely involves use of weapon...coercion and pressure to engage in unwanted sexual activity is still sexual assault/rape.

The tips are awesome and yes, rape is usually someone introduced to or known in some way by victim (not saying best buds).

I have a niece who was drug raped at a club 10 years ago. one of the guys in her group of friends slipped a drug into her drink and then offered to take her home when she became ill.

9 months later she gave birth to a very hispanic child and she is as whit skin red headed as they come. she was also a virgin.

The guy was a friend of a friend of a friend....but trusted. no one knew him really and couldn't find him. my niece didn't know she was raped or pregnant for 5 months!

Her child? She kept and he has all kinds of health problems and behavior problems.

Great report.

Thanks, KB. Here is another subject that needs to be in the spotlight every now and then because it is something that we need to know and help educate others about.

@ Pamela Jean (GotTheScoop)
I was date raped too - back in my early 20's. I went on a date with a man that was going to hire me to work for his company. We had a couple drinks and after the 3rd I started feeling sick and asked him to take me home. I was literally throwing up by the time we got to my apt. He offered to take me upstairs and I felt so sick and woozy I agreed - he then followed me into my place, and I vaguely remember him taking my clothes off - I was still retching and the bastard forced himself on me. I was too sick to struggle and I don't remember him leaving. Needless to say I never took the job, and back in those days date rape and being drugged weren't as talked about then. I never told anyone because I thought they would think I just drank too much - but I am 100% positive I was drugged. I still think of that jerk to this day, over 30 years later.

Something like this can never be forgotten, Pam...as hard as we would like to. We can work through it, and that's the best we can do. The guy who raped me, I had occasion to see one time about 15 years later and I literally fell to pieces! I cried and cried...but I swore that from that point on, he was NOT going to have that kind of reaction from me!

@ Debra Myers (skyangel)
And this is just one of many. No one knows who might be raped, or a child molested, but we can be aware of dangers or the probabilities and adjust our behaviors according.

I agree with that. We need to be careful. Toronto is an extremely safe city, but I am not going to run around naked at 3 am in the back alleys of a drug community, just as I am not going to climb over the fence to say hello to the polar bears in the zoo.

@ Debra Myers (skyangel)
Thanks, KB. Here is another subject that needs to be in the spotlight every now and then because it is something that we need to know and help educate others about.



Something like this can never be forgotten, Pam...as hard as we would like to. We can work through it, and that's the best we can do. The guy who raped me, I had occasion to see one time about 15 years later and I literally fell to pieces! I cried and cried...but I swore that from that point on, he was NOT going to have that kind of reaction from me!

I wouldn't cry if I saw this guy again - I swear I would kick him where it would hurt him the most! I was a very pretty, naive young girl. No, I wasn't a virgin, so I wasn't totally ignorant. I could flirt with the best of them - but for this bastard to put some drug in my drink to get me in bed, he is just evil. I hope his life has sucked and he thinks back on all the horrible things he did to me and no doubt other women in his life. No, I hate him - he would never see me cry.

@ Bart B. Van Bockstaele
I agree with that. We need to be careful. Toronto is an extremely safe city, but I am not going to run around naked at 3 am in the back alleys of a drug community, just as I am not going to climb over the fence to say hello to the polar bears in the zoo.

So true. There are ways to behave and doing foolish things that are looking for trouble isn't one of them.

@ Pamela Jean (GotTheScoop)
I wouldn't cry if I saw this guy again - I swear I would kick him where it would hurt him the most! I was a very pretty, naive young girl. No, I wasn't a virgin, so I wasn't totally ignorant. I could flirt with the best of them - but for this bastard to put some drug in my drink to get me in bed, he is just evil. I hope his life has sucked and he thinks back on all the horrible things he did to me and no doubt other women in his life. No, I hate him - he would never see me cry.

I hate the guy that did this to me too..and I know that I should never have broke down like that...but seeing him caught me totally off-guard. Well, I firmly believe that those who expend negative energy will get it back 10-fold.

Great report, tips and thread Sky.

@ Debra Myers (skyangel)
So true. There are ways to behave and doing foolish things that are looking for trouble isn't one of them.


I hate the guy that did this to me too..and I know that I should never have broke down like that...but seeing him caught me totally off-guard. Well, I firmly believe that those who expend negative energy will get it back 10-fold.

I wouldn't say such a thing for it would give one the impression that rape victims were receiving their just desserts in the field of karma.

@ Helena Handbasket
Great report, tips and thread Sky.

Thanks, Helena!

@ 666divine
I wouldn't say such a thing for it would give one the impression that rape victims were receiving their just desserts in the field of karma.

No...rape victims don't deserve to be raped, and I was talking about the perpetrators. Their evil, cruel ways should come back to haunt these jerks for the rest of their days...which is what I meant.

@ Pamela Jean (GotTheScoop)
I was date raped too - back in my early 20's. I went on a date with a man that was going to hire me to work for his company. We had a couple drinks and after the 3rd I started feeling sick and asked him to take me home. I was literally throwing up by the time we got to my apt. He offered to take me upstairs and I felt so sick and woozy I agreed - he then followed me into my place, and I vaguely remember him taking my clothes off - I was still retching and the bastard forced himself on me. I was too sick to struggle and I don't remember him leaving. Needless to say I never took the job, and back in those days date rape and being drugged weren't as talked about then. I never told anyone because I thought they would think I just drank too much - but I am 100% positive I was drugged. I still think of that jerk to this day, over 30 years later.

Pam, I'm sorry to hear. Things like that impact our minds in ways that those who haven't been violated have a tough time understanding. As in the rules that deb posted, instinct is probably spot on and with the drug mix in alcohol, you had no control over what he did.

Instinct and my training helped me nearly break a guys finger this past oct in a club - some man asked me to dance and me having been drinking merlot at the Glass Cactus in dallas (a very upscale club) and then heading to a Harley Bar and getting a mixed drink, my head went fuzzy. I said yes and the guy was rubbin his stuff on me. I was nice and backed off......he wouldn't let up. Even fuzzy, I managed a martial arts move that was on the brink of total pain for this dude - he let up. ;-) Instinct and reflex is very very very important.

We are trained by society to not trust it: Oh, but he comes from such a nice family. Oh, not him. Things are just going to happen, cannot change it (BULLSHITE).

The thing about rapists is that they are professionals and "nice guys" too. They aren't hairy dirty thugs exclusively. And we can do things to prevent and lower our risk of being raped.

My husband grabbed my arm one time - I don't play around with my training because it isn't a joke. If someone wants to f with me ....show me what ya got, I don't f back because my premise is you f, you die. Anyway, my husband had a friend over and they were shooting tequila. My husband was f ing around "show me some karate"....I was like leave me alone. I walked away. My husband is an ex football player with the name no-neck because he has a 21" neck still at 50 yo.

He grabbed me in play and hurt me but I never used my martial arts. He wasn't a threat. He was drunk. However, later he grabed my wrist in a reflex, I busted his wrist and he still has problems today...........can a woman protect herself? Absolutely! Using our brains and not putting ourselves in situations and not trusting those we aren't100% sure of.

But even when in a situation,using our brains - our strongest weapon of all.